“Vulnerability is about having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcome.”
The fertility journey can produce a roller coaster of emotions from excitement, nervousness, sadness and everything in between. Your emotions are expected to be variable given the uncertainty of the process and the fluctuation of hormones that occur through the infertility treatment cycle. When you couple these items with the constant questioning from friends, family members and strangers (who mean well) asking, “When are you going to have a baby?” can cause feelings of stress and anxiety to an already unpredictable time.
In addition, while you are going through your journey you may find that things suddenly start to upset you that may not have before. As an example, when you start hearing about people close to you becoming pregnant– while you may be happy for them this can also stir up feelings of anger and resentment. You also may choose to not attend baby showers or to take a break from friends who have newborns. Please know that this is very common and you have a right to your feelings. Everyone’s journey is different, as is everyone’s comfort level.
Know that you do not have to process all of these emotions alone. We are here to listen to all of your concerns with an open, supportive and nonjudgmental listening ear.